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dev_chieftain) wrote2012-05-31 08:45 am
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Phrases I could do without
"Chicks, man."
"Right? Man, chicks."
I hate this phrase and its variations. It lays down the idea that all men are heterosexual and can find common ground in one obvious problem: the speaker actually has to work to maintain a friendship or relationship with a woman, and society taught him that he was supposed to get a woman for free as decoration on his arm.
For starters: some guys are gay, so you're excluding them. Some ladies are gay, and they probably don't appreciate the insinuation that they and their partners are somehow the source of all your romantic woes. Some guys acknowledge that if you want to be in a romantic relationship, you should put effort forth equivalent to the effort you were hoping to get back. Oh, and that a relationship is not about expecting anything of the other person, but earning it by proving that you genuinely care about their opinion with your day to day behavior, showing respect for their opinions and ideas, their feelings, their situation.
So what I always want to say to this is, "shut the fuck up. You think you're establishing a commonality when you say this, but all you're doing is trying to make women into societal outcasts with a gigantic No Girls Allowed sign. We're not girls, we're women. Get over yourself and acknowledge that we have feelings and thoughts too. It's not that hard, I promise. In fact, you're likely to find that a relationship built on a friendship with someone you treat as an equal will be a lot more rewarding and easier to make last."
I'm a little cranky because I got a little over three hours of sleep or something and I still haven't been paid.
"Right? Man, chicks."
I hate this phrase and its variations. It lays down the idea that all men are heterosexual and can find common ground in one obvious problem: the speaker actually has to work to maintain a friendship or relationship with a woman, and society taught him that he was supposed to get a woman for free as decoration on his arm.
For starters: some guys are gay, so you're excluding them. Some ladies are gay, and they probably don't appreciate the insinuation that they and their partners are somehow the source of all your romantic woes. Some guys acknowledge that if you want to be in a romantic relationship, you should put effort forth equivalent to the effort you were hoping to get back. Oh, and that a relationship is not about expecting anything of the other person, but earning it by proving that you genuinely care about their opinion with your day to day behavior, showing respect for their opinions and ideas, their feelings, their situation.
So what I always want to say to this is, "shut the fuck up. You think you're establishing a commonality when you say this, but all you're doing is trying to make women into societal outcasts with a gigantic No Girls Allowed sign. We're not girls, we're women. Get over yourself and acknowledge that we have feelings and thoughts too. It's not that hard, I promise. In fact, you're likely to find that a relationship built on a friendship with someone you treat as an equal will be a lot more rewarding and easier to make last."
I'm a little cranky because I got a little over three hours of sleep or something and I still haven't been paid.
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I could do without the phrase, too. Mostly for all the reasons you determine, but if I need a heapin' helpin' of selfishness to load it off, the attitude described makes it a lot harder to make friends with women, while we're both peering over the trenches of an artificial gender gap.
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I really appreciate it when you provide additional info from the male perspective, since I can't speak for it, being a lady.